Q: Is a self-defense course for my child worth it? A: We may agree that two or more kids slugging it out is commonly called fighting. It is however, only one form of fighting. It's a ridiculous but real form of expressing oneself and sometimes a necessary form of protecting oneself. Now, different forms of fighting include, using courage (acting in spite of fear), setting boundaries (so we don't get walked on or influenced in negative ways), self-talk (fighting ourselves),